Godly Sex Education Isn’t Carnal: It’s Crucial

[Vera]

Growing up, many of us were taught lies instead of truth about our bodies and sexuality. Some of these myths came from classmates, some from older friends, and sadly, some from adults who simply didn’t know better.

Here are a few I heard as a young woman — first in secondary school, and later in the university:

“Sex stops menstrual pain.”
“Sperm clears pimples.”
“Virginity doesn’t matter — it doesn’t define your morality.”
“Masturbation is a natural and healthy way to explore your body
“Pimples mean you’re sexually active.”
“Once you start having sex, you can’t stop.”
“Dancing or playing sports can take away your virginity.”

“If a boy touches your breast, it’ll grow.”
“If you don’t have big hips or breasts by 16, something is wrong with you.”
“You can tell if someone is no longer a virgin by the way they walk.”
“Girls who talk about sex are spoiled.”

“If you wear perfume or deodorant too much, you’re trying to seduce boys.”
“Boys won’t respect you if you don’t give them what they want.”

These lies shaped how many of us viewed ourselves — with shame instead of confidence, and fear instead of understanding.

The Silence That Raised Us
Let’s be honest — in many homes, “Don’t talk about sex” was the only form of sex education.

We were warned about hellfire but never taught about healing. We were told to “close our legs,” but not why our bodies deserve honour. We learned to fear our desires, not to understand them.

And what was the result? We stayed quiet. We learned from whispers, TikTok, hostel gossip, and trial-and-error.
Now, we see the outcome:

Girls mistaking manipulation for love.
Boys equating sex with power.
Purity seen as punishment, not purpose.

Why Did This Happen?
Because the church avoided the topic. Because parents called it worldly. Because we thought silence equals safety.
But silence breeds confusion, and confusion births compromise.

Here’s the Truth
Sex education isn’t about teaching people to sin — it’s about teaching sense, wisdom, and God’s design.

God isn’t silent about sex. He created it — beautiful, powerful, sacred. And He placed boundaries around it, not to restrict us, but to protect us.

What Godly Sex Education Teaches
💡 Sex is sacred, not secret.
💡 Consent, respect, and self-control matter deeply to God.
💡 Purity is not shame, it’s purpose.
💡 Healing is possible, no matter your past.
💡 You can be Spirit-filled and self-aware.

A Call to Parents, Churches, and Mentors
Please, talk. Don’t let fear or culture raise another generation in ignorance. Your silence has already raised too many broken, bitter, and confused hearts.

And to every young man and woman reading this — Ask questions. You are not “spoiled” for wanting to understand. 

You are not “dirty” for being curious. You are wise for seeking truth in a world drowning in lust and lies.

Final Words 💬
Dear girl — your body is not a curse or a source of shame. It’s a temple, not a playground for deception. You deserve truth, clarity, and confidence, not guilt and fear.

Dear boy — your strength is not proven by conquest, but by character and control.

Let’s raise a generation that doesn’t just fear God, but understands His heart about sex, purity, love, and healing.
Because Godly sex education isn’t carnal — it’s critical. And it’s long overdue.

[MamaGreens]

Nice poi ts. Growing up, I was told all those same lies, and I believed some for years. Nobody explained anything to me from a godly point of view. I only learned from experience, and honestly, I wish someone had sat me down early to tell me that sex is sacred, not shameful. People think “don’t talk about it” means safety, but silence is what destroys so many. I’m glad someone is finally talking about this.

[AgMan]

I get what you’re saying, but I feel like churches avoid the topic because they don’t know how to discuss it without making it awkward. It’s not easy to balance spiritual purity with practical realities of growing up. Parents too feel shy, so the youth end up learning from social media. I think if pastors were trained to talk about it more wisely, things would be better.

[SheFarm]

This is powerful. I remember believing that painful menstruation would stop after sex. Even some adults encouraged that. It shows how misinformed people are. We really need to re-educate ourselves. I think godly sex education should start from murder school, not when people are already messed up emotionally.

[AgroInnovate]

You’re absolutely right that godly sex education isn’t carnal. People confuse openness with immorality. But truth is, avoiding the subject doesn’t make temptation disappear. It only makes it stronger. Knowledge brings self-control, not lust. We just have to teach it with the right heart.

[Locus]

This needs to be preached more! Sex is a creation of God, not the devil. It’s humans who corrupted it. When you understand God’s purpose for it, you won’t abuse it.

[Trimex]

Honestly, I think some of these myths come from peer pressure and cultural confusion. Everyone pretends to know something, so lies spread easily. It’s time to have honest, mature conversations about the body and sexuality. Silence is not holiness.

[Ekene]

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I have mixed feelings. I agree that we need to talk about sex, but I also worry that some people might use “Godly sex education” as an excuse to over-share or get attention. The motive matters. It must come from a place of truth, not entertainment. Because this topic is sensitive.

[Donk]

What stood out to me was “sex is sacred, not secret.” That’s exactly the problem, we’ve turned something sacred into something shameful. The devil wins when the church stays silent. Talking about it doesn’t make you immoral; it makes you responsible.

[Danny]

Powerful post. I hope more young people read this. We can’t keep pretending that avoiding sex talks will make anyone pure. God’s design for sex is beautiful, we just need to understand it the right way.