11-09-2025, 08:43 PM
Growing up, many of us were taught lies instead of truth about our bodies and sexuality. Some of these myths came from classmates, some from older friends, and sadly, some from adults who simply didn’t know better.
Here are a few I heard as a young woman — first in secondary school, and later in the university:
“Sex stops menstrual pain.”
“Sperm clears pimples.”
“Virginity doesn’t matter — it doesn’t define your morality.”
“Masturbation is a natural and healthy way to explore your body
“Pimples mean you’re sexually active.”
“Once you start having sex, you can’t stop.”
“Dancing or playing sports can take away your virginity.”
“If a boy touches your breast, it’ll grow.”
“If you don’t have big hips or breasts by 16, something is wrong with you.”
“You can tell if someone is no longer a virgin by the way they walk.”
“Girls who talk about sex are spoiled.”
“If you wear perfume or deodorant too much, you’re trying to seduce boys.”
“Boys won’t respect you if you don’t give them what they want.”
These lies shaped how many of us viewed ourselves — with shame instead of confidence, and fear instead of understanding.
The Silence That Raised Us
Let’s be honest — in many homes, “Don’t talk about sex” was the only form of sex education.
We were warned about hellfire but never taught about healing. We were told to “close our legs,” but not why our bodies deserve honour. We learned to fear our desires, not to understand them.
And what was the result? We stayed quiet. We learned from whispers, TikTok, hostel gossip, and trial-and-error.
Now, we see the outcome:
Girls mistaking manipulation for love.
Boys equating sex with power.
Purity seen as punishment, not purpose.
Why Did This Happen?
Because the church avoided the topic. Because parents called it worldly. Because we thought silence equals safety.
But silence breeds confusion, and confusion births compromise.
Here’s the Truth
Sex education isn’t about teaching people to sin — it’s about teaching sense, wisdom, and God’s design.
God isn’t silent about sex. He created it — beautiful, powerful, sacred. And He placed boundaries around it, not to restrict us, but to protect us.
What Godly Sex Education Teaches
💡 Sex is sacred, not secret.
💡 Consent, respect, and self-control matter deeply to God.
💡 Purity is not shame, it’s purpose.
💡 Healing is possible, no matter your past.
💡 You can be Spirit-filled and self-aware.
A Call to Parents, Churches, and Mentors
Please, talk. Don’t let fear or culture raise another generation in ignorance. Your silence has already raised too many broken, bitter, and confused hearts.
And to every young man and woman reading this — Ask questions. You are not “spoiled” for wanting to understand.
You are not “dirty” for being curious. You are wise for seeking truth in a world drowning in lust and lies.
Final Words 💬
Dear girl — your body is not a curse or a source of shame. It’s a temple, not a playground for deception. You deserve truth, clarity, and confidence, not guilt and fear.
Dear boy — your strength is not proven by conquest, but by character and control.
Let’s raise a generation that doesn’t just fear God, but understands His heart about sex, purity, love, and healing.
Because Godly sex education isn’t carnal — it’s critical. And it’s long overdue.
Here are a few I heard as a young woman — first in secondary school, and later in the university:
“Sex stops menstrual pain.”
“Sperm clears pimples.”
“Virginity doesn’t matter — it doesn’t define your morality.”
“Masturbation is a natural and healthy way to explore your body
“Pimples mean you’re sexually active.”
“Once you start having sex, you can’t stop.”
“Dancing or playing sports can take away your virginity.”
“If a boy touches your breast, it’ll grow.”
“If you don’t have big hips or breasts by 16, something is wrong with you.”
“You can tell if someone is no longer a virgin by the way they walk.”
“Girls who talk about sex are spoiled.”
“If you wear perfume or deodorant too much, you’re trying to seduce boys.”
“Boys won’t respect you if you don’t give them what they want.”
These lies shaped how many of us viewed ourselves — with shame instead of confidence, and fear instead of understanding.
The Silence That Raised Us
Let’s be honest — in many homes, “Don’t talk about sex” was the only form of sex education.
We were warned about hellfire but never taught about healing. We were told to “close our legs,” but not why our bodies deserve honour. We learned to fear our desires, not to understand them.
And what was the result? We stayed quiet. We learned from whispers, TikTok, hostel gossip, and trial-and-error.
Now, we see the outcome:
Girls mistaking manipulation for love.
Boys equating sex with power.
Purity seen as punishment, not purpose.
Why Did This Happen?
Because the church avoided the topic. Because parents called it worldly. Because we thought silence equals safety.
But silence breeds confusion, and confusion births compromise.
Here’s the Truth
Sex education isn’t about teaching people to sin — it’s about teaching sense, wisdom, and God’s design.
God isn’t silent about sex. He created it — beautiful, powerful, sacred. And He placed boundaries around it, not to restrict us, but to protect us.
What Godly Sex Education Teaches
💡 Sex is sacred, not secret.
💡 Consent, respect, and self-control matter deeply to God.
💡 Purity is not shame, it’s purpose.
💡 Healing is possible, no matter your past.
💡 You can be Spirit-filled and self-aware.
A Call to Parents, Churches, and Mentors
Please, talk. Don’t let fear or culture raise another generation in ignorance. Your silence has already raised too many broken, bitter, and confused hearts.
And to every young man and woman reading this — Ask questions. You are not “spoiled” for wanting to understand.
You are not “dirty” for being curious. You are wise for seeking truth in a world drowning in lust and lies.
Final Words 💬
Dear girl — your body is not a curse or a source of shame. It’s a temple, not a playground for deception. You deserve truth, clarity, and confidence, not guilt and fear.
Dear boy — your strength is not proven by conquest, but by character and control.
Let’s raise a generation that doesn’t just fear God, but understands His heart about sex, purity, love, and healing.
Because Godly sex education isn’t carnal — it’s critical. And it’s long overdue.